Unconditional love is about allowing others to be exactly who they are, which may not always be who we would like them to be. Perhaps a lesson here is to realize that love comes from within: no one can give it to us.
Your true self is the original You, unshaped by upbringing, class or culture. The other part – your adapted self – is how your true self-alters – willingly or unwillingly – to fit in with society, with social norms, or with others.
Your true self may become hidden within, even disowned by your adapted self. But it still exists in the background and remains connected, even subconsciously, with the universe of which you are apart. And it is when you recognize your true self, and bring it out from its hiding place, and integrate it with your active, visible, self, that change starts manifesting itself.
When you are true to yourself, you are completely honest with yourself, with what you feel, believe and desire. Generally, we hide some – even most of – our emotions, our anger, hurt, frustration and sadness, as well as our desires, ambitions, and needs. We bottle them up, in the hope that no one can get close enough to see the real person, the true self. Because doing so makes us, we believe, vulnerable.
Unwanted events can occur as a result of attempting to live as our adapted self, rather than as our true self. For example, it is hard to stay true to yourself when everyone around you is influencing you to be something other than yourself. You may even see – or think you see – value in how you are influenced to behave.
When you are being influenced to show your adapted self, you may hear an internal voice that tells you differently. That may be called consciousness, or conscience, but that internal dialogue links to a universe that works on your emotions, feelings, and thoughts that is much more likely to be in accordance with your true self.
As you bring that consciousness, that internal dialogue, into accord with your true self, things may start manifesting themselves in your life in unexpected ways. For example, the energy that surrounds your adapted self-will tend to resonate a lower level, precisely because it is in a degree of opposition to your true self, so your adapted self’s desires may well not be fulfilled.
For attain those desires, and to attain them more fully, you need to begin to move away from your adapted self towards your true self, and in doing so, displaying your true self to others, and respecting their true selves. In doing so, you may well find that your own energy levels increase.
Not that everything or everyone around you is going to encourage you to be true to yourself, or support you in doing so. After all, your adapted self may have been on display for some years. And your true self may well prove less comfortable for others.
Your life to date may have been easy or hard, or a mix of both. We hope – we are often told – that justice will prevail. Modern thought tends to equate justice with judgment, with ideas of current or ultimate reward or punishment. Instead, consider justice in terms of discovering the truth about yourself and about others, and doing so through discovering – or rather uncovering – your true self.
Go forward with a heart full of bliss, love, and light.